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Empower Your Parenting with Less Anxiety

Anxiety is contagious, and it can interfere with your parenting. You can even unwittingly transfer your anxiety to your child.

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The Power of Environment

Anxiety is contagious, and it can interfere with your parenting. You can even unwittingly transfer your anxiety to your child.

Patterns of Anxiety & Skillbuilding Steps

Avoidance Pattern

  • What it looks like: When you play it safe and jump in only when you’re sure to succeed, or when you run from imperfection or anxiety-provoking situations and challenges, you are communicating messages of fear that undoubtedly will impact your children.
  • What you can do: In the face of challenges, step in to show courage and resilience, even when it’s hard or you’re scared. Get comfortable with uncertainty and focus on improvement vs. perfection.

Catastrophic Thinking Pattern

  • What it looks like: If your anxiety has a fantastic imagination and focuses on worst-case scenarios or perceives the world as a scary place, your child takes note. When you time travel by ruminating on past mistakes and fearing the future, your child feels that.
  • What you can do: Train your anxiety to acknowledge and accept that yes, the world can be scary, and you can courageously deal with it anyway. This flip sends a message to kick into problem-solving mode.

Rigidity Pattern

  • What it looks like: Things didn’t go as planned, so you dig in your heels and become inflexible or stuck in your thinking and actions.
  • What you can do: Be open to considering other options or Plan B. This teaches your child flexibility and to turn lemons into lemonade.

Permanence/Global Thinking Pattern

  • What it looks like: An unproductive thought pattern emerges when you think and use language that send “all or nothing” messages or that change isn’t possible. Do you think or say: “This always happens to me or I’ll never be good at…”
  • What you can do: Keep things in perspective and realize you can always change your thinking and habits because your brain changes based on how you use it.

Internally Focused Pattern

  • What it looks like: You’re preoccupied by your worried thoughts, which can rob you of joy and present moments.
  • What you can do: Notice when your mind drifts and bring it back to the present. Externalize your thoughts by expressing your feelings via talking, writing, drawing or movement.

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Neuro Noel

Neuroeducational Consultant empowering teachers, parents, students, athletes and coaches.